Do you trust yourself OR the struggle? (full transcript below)

I wanted to talk about trust today and how you cultivate a relationship where you trust yourself with food.

So I’m going to share a little bit about my journey, because people always ask me, how I maintained my physique for so long, how I maintain my lifestyle, how I don’t fall on or off the wagon.

So there are three things at play for me.


I understand all the pieces of food and how to put them together. So there’s a saying that knowledge is power, but wisdom is actually knowing how to take that knowledge and put it into action.

I take my knowledge and I use it on a daily basis.

So I’ve created that kind of wisdom for myself; I’ve listened to my body.

The second thing:

I started to actually pay attention to the relationship I was having with my body. So instead of being hard on myself all the time (and I used to be really hard on myself).

I’ve never been overweight but there was a long period of time where I did not love my body. Then when my body started to change, I got obsessive about it.

Oh is it too lean? Is it not lean enough? Blah blah blah right?

I ate a raisin I could see it on my body the next day.

Give me a break.

Seriously, chaos.

There was chaos in my life for a really long time.

So I started paying attention to the relationship I was having with myself and the self-talk that was going down and I started to be a lot kinder to myself.

Saying nice things, looking at myself in the mirror and actually saying “wow you look awesome today!”

And whatever voices rise up from me, I just say “You know what?


I’m not doing this anymore. I’m not playing this game anymore. It doesn’t need to be this way.”

I started paying attention to the relationship that I am having with myself.


I’ve been at this for a really long time.

My lifestyle is not something that happened overnight.

I used to live on Slurpee’s, microwave popcorn and cigarettes.

I have been cultivating my relationship with food and my body for a lot of years, and consistency in anything is going to yield results.

When I am consistent in my business, my business grows and flourishes.

I’ve been consistent with my business now for well over a decade.

So it might look like my business is exploding but I’ve been at this for a really long time. Which is why there is so much power behind my message because I am not afraid to share it now after being in the ring for so long.

Are you willing to do that with food and your body?

Dieting thrives on the struggle; and the story around the struggle.

And the belief that if you don’t have that struggle,  you’re going to gain 500 pounds and you’re going to explode.

It’s just not the truth.

The ironic thing is the struggle is the very thing that is keeping you stuck.

So how would it feel to put down the struggle?

How would it feel to start to trust yourself with food?

Here is a few examples from my world.

I love exercise.

I know if I take 2,3, 4 days off I could choose to  beat myself up about it, right?

I could live off that struggle and use that it to motivate me to go back to the gym, but the bottom line is I love exercise.

I know that after a certain number of days off, I’m going to make my way back to the gym, which means I trust myself.

I trust myself to take care of myself.

When it comes to food, even if I get into ice cream or gumballs or whatever it may be, (yes I love gumballs which I don’t eat them very often anymore because they send me sideways), I always trust myself to get back on my path because the healthy foods that I do put in my body on a daily basis make me feel really amazing so it’s worth coming back to them, right?

I always trust myself to come back to the things that make me feel good.

You don’t have to be afraid of the cookies and the chips and the candy bars.

YES, you do need to pay attention to the foods that might trigger you into addictive tendencies.

You know there’s that saying that one is too many, 10,000 is never enough, that’s true.

Know your trigger foods.

However, even if you get triggered by food you can trust yourself to come back what you do know and how healthy food makes you feel.

We are all born to thrive and to feel good, we are put on this earth to feel good.

We are not put on this earth to struggle.

We all want to feel good, so if you follow that in yourself, if you just start to trust yourself that you are always going to look after your own best interest, you won’t have to struggle to lose weight.

You don’t have to struggle against unhealthy foods.

Just trust yourself.

So try it for a week, put down the struggle.

See what happens and share with me in the comments below.

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