In this powerful live coaching session, Lisa works with Kasia, a former client who is navigating pregnancy in her 40s while running a successful coaching business. This conversation explores the profound shifts that come with major life transitions and how our definitions of success must evolve with us.
Key Topics Discussed
The Reality of Pregnancy vs. Expectations
- How pregnancy can shatter our carefully constructed ideas of how life “should” go
- The guilt that comes when reality doesn’t match our dreams
- Learning to hold multiple truths at once: excitement and regret, joy and burden
Redefining Success
- Moving from external metrics (revenue, client satisfaction, stability) to internal states
- Key insight: “Success isn’t a measurement – it’s a feeling you get to embody”
- Success as an identity and internal state of being rather than external achievement
Value Beyond the Dollar
- Recognizing inherent worth that isn’t tied to income generation
- The unpaid labor of motherhood, partnership, and family building
- Standing in your power when financial contributions shift
Navigating Partnership During Transition
- Having difficult conversations about expectations and contributions
- Moving from 50/50 thinking to understanding natural ebbs and flows in relationships
- The importance of negotiation and honest communication
Conflict Avoidance Patterns
- How childhood experiences with conflict shape adult behavior
- The difference between actual conflict and perceived judgment
- Learning to trust your ability to navigate uncertainty
Key Takeaways
- Surrender as Practice: Major life transitions require us to practice surrender at levels we’ve never experienced before
- Internal vs. External Judgment: Often the harshest judgment comes from within, not from others
- The Value Question: Ask yourself and your partner: “What would you pay me to be a mother to your child?”
- Presence Over Productivity: Some seasons of life call for being rather than doing
- Relationships as Long-term Reciprocity: Healthy partnerships aren’t tit-for-tat but involve carrying each other through different seasons
Reflection Questions
- Where in your life are you trying to avoid conflict that may not even happen?
- How are you defining success, and is that definition serving you?
- What would change if you truly believed in your inherent worth, separate from what you produce?
- How might you honor the season of life you’re in rather than rushing to the next one?
Connect with Lisa
- Website: [lisacarpenter.ca]
- Instagram: [@lisacarpenterinc]
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